Patience of a Saint

Witness Every Day How Your Kids Model Your Patience and Mature Beautifully

I honestly believe God was preparing me to teach this program, only 20 years ago I didn’t know it. When I gave birth to my beautiful son Kai, I didn’t realize that I was going to be groomed to develop the patience of a saint. He screamed and cried for the first four months of his life. My in-laws kept telling me I needed to give him more milk. And then when I started him on people food, the babysitter would call me everyday to tell me that he won’t eat what I sent him for lunch. One time when he was two, I picked him up from another exasperated babysitter. She looked at me and said “Your son tore down all my curtains and ripped out all my cassette tapes today.”

That was just the beginning. By third grade, Kai was diagnosed with ADHD. I pored over parenting books looking for the best and “right” way to parent a child with ADHD, or really just to parent a child with his characteristics… strong willed, disorganized, distractible, issues with anger management, hyper most of the time, and impulsive. I sought help with family psychologists.

I wanted to be positive with my child, as hard as that sometimes was. His dad was losing his temper with him, and I could see that was not helpful. His stepdad (my husband) was frustrated with him as well, only making the situation worse. Then we had a second child. And guess what? He had special needs too, only my husband and I didn’t know it. We were having challenges with parenting our son. We had two completely different styles, and our styles were clashing and causing arguments. I could see everything that was not working in the way we were parenting, but I could not convince my husband to get on board with me.

Everything came to a head when our younger son was diagnosed with pediatric bipolar disorder in the 2nd grade. It was devastating to us, but also an answer to all the unexplained behaviors we saw in our child. But more than anything, it forced us to come together and be on the same page to use the most positive parenting strategies we could to raise our children. It was an answer to prayers for me! It was everything I had always dreamed about for my children. (not the diagnosis, but the positive parenting strategies)

Now I could take everything I had learned over the years and put it into place for my children. A beautiful, positive, patient approach to teaching children proper behavior. So it took 20 years. So I had to learn this system from a bunch of different places. So what?

Well… let me tell you what it has done for my family!

• I rarely ever lose my patience with my children because I have a system in place that deals with their inappropriate behavior right away.
• We now have simple house rules that the children are clear about and follow.
• There is much less stress because our children will go weeks without needing discipline; just a simple reminder of the house rules.
• My husband and I never fight over how to discipline the children, or what the house rules are. (big sigh of relief)
• I don’t feel guilty about taking care of myself because I know it makes me a better mom!
• We have fun together as a family because the household is calm and free from power struggles.
• We don’t have to deal with embarrassing behaviors in public because we take our positive parenting strategies with us on the road.
• My children respect me because I respect them!
• I rest easy at night because I know that the positive tools I use to parent is building my child’s self esteem and setting him up for success as an adult.

Session 1

Stop Taking Your Child’s Behavior Personally

We’ll talk about:

How practicing the concept of “emotional detachment” can work wonders for keeping your cool during frustrating moments. I’ll show you two other tricks for defusing your child’s emotions.

You’ll discover:

How to disengage from the power struggles or button pushing your child tries to engage you in.

You’ll take home:

An eye opening exercise that will help you realize how you get involved in these emotional games, and how easy you can get out.

You’ll take away:

Crystal clarity about whose behavior you are responsible for, and whose you are not.

Session 2

Be Accountable For Your Behavior

We’ll talk about:

The 3 most important reasons we must be accountable to ourselves and our children for the mistakes we make with our behavior. You’ll also explore guilt on a deeper level, and how to release guilt so you are free to parent from a clean slate.

You’ll discover:

What you learn about yourself from your mistakes, and your guilt and why it doesn’t serve you to hang onto either one.

You’ll take home:

An exercise that will give you a profound look at who you are, and who you are not.

You’ll take away:

A confidence about who you are as a mom, and freedom from the guilt that threatened to chain you down.

Session 3

Practice Regular Self –Care In and Out

We’ll talk about:

What it means to practice regular self-care in the moment and out of the moment. You’ll learn the 7 beliefs that stop moms from practicing self-care, as well as the 6 benefits you will receive.

You’ll discover:

Eight different ways to refuel your energy on a regular basis.

You’ll take home:

Self-care tricks you and your child can use to calm your nerves in the heat of the moment. An exercise to help you identify your needs.

You’ll take away:

A plan to take care of momma and not feel guilty about it!

Session 4

Use Creativity in Your Parenting Approach

We’ll talk about:

How to find the perfect balance between structure and flexibility. You’ll also learn how using the back door in parenting works far better than trying to out control your child.

You’ll discover:

Some positive parenting tools you can use to gain cooperation from your children, and get the respect you want and deserve.

You’ll take home:

Some guidelines and templates to create routines and structure at home.

You’ll take away:

Some ideas about how to deal with common child behavior problems, and maybe even some not so common ones.

Session 5

Put Your House Rules and Discipline System in Place

We’ll talk about:

Exactly how to set your house rules based on the child behavior problems you are experiencing at home. We’ll cover in great detail the “Take a Breather” discipline strategy that is used in conjunction with your house rules to teach your children proper behavior.

You’ll discover:

How easy it is to be on the same page with your spouse, and how this system teaches and shapes your child’s character instead of punishes your children.

You’ll take home:

All the instructions on how to use this new system, and the new “Take a Breather” worksheets to be used with your children.

You’ll take away:

A renewed sense of hope as you begin to implement and practice this new system in your family.

Session 6

Understand What is Driving Your Child’s Misbehavior

We’ll talk about:

Why not all misbehavior stems from defiance, and how to know when it’s not. You’ll also learn 10 other reasons child often misbehave.

You’ll discover:

That your children often use strategies to get their needs met, even if it’s not always the “right” strategy. You can help them learn to use different strategies.

You’ll take home:

A super cool exercise that helps you identify the need behind your child’s behavior so you can begin guiding your child in the proper direction the next time around.

You’ll take away:

A completely new perspective on why your children act the way they do, and a renewed sense of love and compassion for their spirits.

Session 7

Change the Core Beliefs that Trigger Your Anger

We’ll talk about:

What triggers your anger and frustration, and causes you to lose your patience or temper. We will look into the rules, beliefs, expectations, and patterns that have been governing your life and parenting for a very long time.

You’ll discover:

That you may be parenting subconsciously, and that some of your rules, beliefs, expectations and patterns may no longer be serving you.

You’ll take home:

A powerful exercise that enables you to alter your beliefs about motherhood, parenting, your children, and yourself.

You’ll take away:

An amazing awareness, and acceptance of and patience for who you are and who you want to be. Sign up for the Patience of a Saint 7-week Tele-Workshop by 10/7/11 and receive all of the following Fast Action Sign up bonuses and special pricing:

You’ll get:

• 7 Interactive Telecalls
• Plus 2 Bonus Help Telecalls
• 9 MP3 Recordings
• 7 Study Guides
• 7 Action Guides

You’ll get:

• 7 Interactive Telecalls
• Plus 2 Bonus Help Telecalls
• 9 MP3 Recordings
• 7 Study Guides
• 7 Action Guides